Saturday, January 22, 2011

Bercinta bersama Suami Orang..

"salam kak zura...
kak maaf mgangu...
aku ane kn minta pndpt kta O pengalaman kta tentang mslh yg aku hadapi msane....
aku ane bcnta ma laki urg...
phubungan kmi jauh dh...
smpai kn k tahap hidup Bmadu...
ikutkn ati aku nda rela plg hidup bmadu p d sbbkn bini nya nda mhu d ceraikn jdi tpksa lh aku ane menerima...
kak..sblum pnikahan ane tjdi...aku kn tnya...
lau ati berat tuk bmadu..adakah aku hrus mneruskan pnikahan ane Atau dbtalkn....
adakah hidup Bmadu ane akan kekal...kak tolong aku...."


Psst.. this is an example. I like the bit where the husband said - my wife inda mau di ceraikan. Simple saja. Talak di tangan lelaki. Kalau kan bebini baru, ceraikan saja bini yang ada. Siapa sanggup sharing. Entah kali kalau bini nya tau ia berskandal, minta cerai kali ah. Inda jua bini kan menahan laki, kalau sudah laki becinta dan MADLY INLOVE dengan scandal sampai kan kawin.

Nafsu susah nak control kalau iman tak kuat. Now i know what it meant. When i was young, i never understood why divorce happen, why people couple argue and never solve problem until scandal sana sini. That was when i was young.

When i was young, i also thought that i can make someone to love you instead to love others for a long time. I learn a lot as i grew. But FEELING INLOVE ani bukan dapat di control control. If nya ada FEELING arah orang lain, ooooooo cannot di control, rasa FEELING CINTA NYA kuat, lebih kuat than cinta nya yang ada.. that's it. And that's the time when i realized, there will be no hope to tahan tahan to make him to love me anymore. Let it be. Let it fly. If it that love comes back then its yours. If not it will never be yours. So be it for me.


I imagine ... i am married now. I also have problems in my marriage. I don't talk about it. It looks perfect kan. hahah!!! Yes.. Nobody in this world is perfect, otherwise it would be boring. But i am sure there are ways to communicate to solve it. There shouldn't be pressure in sloving this matter. But when you know, you felt it is just not working, its just it. Like you are hanging and you're confused. But this..

I don't know. When i received this text, i hope this girl sincerely wants to ask for my advice, of course i would give the best. But that's for me. Knowing i have been through what she has been through. But i wount know how she sees it because she'S INLOVE WITH SOMEBODYS' HUSBAND.

What if this girl is scandaling with your or my husband? Like girl nowdays is so berakal now right. Wanting to ask me, but yet screwing with my husband. Just wanted to know how a wife felt. Barangkali saja nie. But then again, banar banar, i don't think wife would want the husband to have an affair.

You know to the extend, wife can feel and know, but pretend not to know. Just don't want to create something that create tension in the relationship while other taking advantage with that 'love' that should be with the wife. Ketawa tia. But you know what, you feel good now, but you will feel the misery later.


It all depends with wives. I am speaking for myself. I am not that bad looking. I can cook. I can iron. I work and etc. But if my husband having an affair, and he wanted to marry again, i would be mad of course, but i will not stop him. I want a divorce because i don't think i can live mendendam. I rather be single again, and who knows someone out there want you for who you are. Again this is so traditional.. When i said, i want a divorce, because i wanted to give that girl a chance to live with the man she choose. And to fully love him truly and him fully focus and love her too. No split feeling. I don't want my husband to tell the girl that i don't want to have the divorce, and i am the problematic one. hahah... Yet ... okay.


That is a good feeling to have. But how long? When a man cannot make a decision on his marriage, his so into other woman yet he have his own, and didn't see anything good about her, well.. we shall see how he live his life. One .. two.. three.. four.. exit.. two .. three.. and so on sampai ke tua. Just don't make sense.

So anyway, when there's a woman out there having an affair with someone husband, and that guy is telling you 'my wife inda mau di divorce'... yet he is screwing you, not even meeting your family to stand on his feet and ask your for marriage, well... DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME for him. In marriage it would be worst. He probably marry your for pity. He pity you, he marry you. He wount have children with you, but just pity. Simply PITY.

He love his wife, his children and you? Just an extra .. haha!! Just INTERFRAME saja. Yet he is actually happy when he told you he is not happy at home. His wife just yakidiyak.. yakidiyak.. and he couldn't stand her. Yet he is still married to her.

Look again woman. You're beautiful. Why waste for a man that's just going to waste you, your beauty, your time and everything of you. Wait till you marry him.. it would be different. Hahah!!! Serious.

SoulMate is hard to find. But you will know when you are one when you're with him and he knows it too... And its not just you, its been around. And tell me, how many are happy, like really happy after that without sakit hati. haha!! Ooo


to be continued...



I am feeling down right now. I can't control my emotional feeling. I feel lonely right now. I wish i have someone to talk to. But hey.. I will be okay. Hahah!! Gila kan.

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